In case you needed to be reminded, or simply needed to hear it today. You are loved, you are lovable, you ARE love.
What we leave behind us is not always pretty, most of the time it's messy and ugly and painful- which is exactly why we chose to leave it behind us and move on to more promising, hope filled seasons of our lives. [Whether fortunately or unfortunately] we can't go back and change parts of our lives which we no longer care to remember or would much rather forget about- instead we can move forward peacefully knowing that gave it our all and somehow managed to survive it. Our lives are continuous journeys of hope and strength filled with good intentions and the desire to make our whole story a more beautiful and fulfilling experience.
Above all else protect yourself and your peace of mind. Guard your heart against those who do not have your best interests in mind, value yourself enough to know when a friendship or relationship of any sort no longer serve your soul. Surround yourself with those people who genuinely love you and care for you. Create safe spaces where love, peace and tranquility live uninhibited and undisturbed. Listen to your inner voice, follow your intuition, if it doesn't feel right to you, it probably isn't. Be selective of those who you allow into your inner space, you are a sacred divine being, start treating yourself like one.
We are all connected by invisible threads of love, compassion and humanity. I am no different than you, I dream, hope and love just like you do. We are in this together, let's take the time to understand, empower and encourage each other. Let's believe in one another and remind ourselves that we are all fighting battles which we may know nothing about. Show a little love, be a little kinder, give a little more.
It's incredible what feeling heard and validated will do to a person. One of the greatest gifts we can give each other is the act of listening and allowing the other person to freely express themselves without the fear of judgment, rejection or blame. To listen to is to give the gift of healing to another, it is a beautiful form of respect, one that honors the importance of what we have to say and the story that we have to tell. Take the time to listen to someone who is need or allow yourself to be heard, both are equally as powerful and life changing.
By honoring the presence of love in our lives we begin to make room for healing and peace to enter into our hearts. Accepting love and loving someone are both sacred acts which define our ability as humans to comfort, heal and honor one another. Love reminds us of who we really are and what we are truly made of. Love heals, and understands, it gives hope to the broken and life to the otherwise forgotten.
The effort we put in to something we want is sometimes even more meaningful then the desired outcome. Our efforts say a great deal about who we are, what we believe in and how far we are willing to go and how hard we are willing to work for what we want. We don't always know if what we are doing will work or if it is entirely right for us but the fear of staying stuck in the same place and living in regret oftentimes propels us forward into the unknown and fuels our drive and increases our momentum. Keep pushing forward.
Some days you won't know where you are headed- you might not even know where you are standing. Your judgement and vision may clouded and things that normally don't disturb you will for some reason completely overwhelm you and make you question your every thought and move. These days are difficult and oftentimes long and frustrating but the good news is that like with everything else we experience, they too [thankfully] come to an end. Allow yourself the space to feel these emotions and understand what it is that they are trying to convey. The meaning behind their message usually uncovers something deep within us that needs to be dealt with and re-examined. Not every day will make sense, not every emotion will feel good but the strength within you and your desire for happiness and inner peace will lead you through these dark moments and blank spaces. May you find comfort in knowing that momentarily not having the answers is not the end of the world, you will be guided towards the right path and clarity will eventually prevail.
Some things are impossible to explain to those who are not ready to see them, no matter what you do or say they will not comprehend where you are coming from or where you might be going on your journey. Make peace with this and give up trying to prove your point to someone who is not willing to understand. Realizing that not everyone will care, agree or praise you takes a certain grace, maturity and level of acceptance which goes beyond what many of us have been taught to accept. Your decisions have to make sense for you, not anyone else. May this serve as a reminder that your choices shape your reality, your actions change your life.
It's easy to lose ourselves in the shuffle of everyday life- responsibilities and routines take over and we often forget about ourselves in the process. Take time to meet your needs and be nurturing towards yourself. Self-love is a necessity, it is not selfish or self-centered as you may have been led to believe. You cannot take care of others unless you take care of yourself first.
What we allow is what will continue, therefore it is imperative that we understand our value and fully comprehend our self-worth. You may feel one way about someone, or something but in reality what you deserve is something totally different. If it does not serve you, better you, fulfill you or make you happy, it is time to reevaluate and reconsider. Although it is easier said than done it is do-able.
And like with everything else in life, we somehow get through it- we elicit deep within ourselves a strength we never knew we had. We move forward gracefully, intentionally and unapologetically unaware that at times our courage and resiliency are giving someone else the hope and strength they were searching for. Together we pick up the pieces and keep moving forward because we have no other choice, because despite what we thought was our end, life keeps going and we must rise above it and flow with the changes before us.
It all starts with learning to love ourselves. Once we understand our value and self-worth we will reach a point where only genuine, unconditional and pure love will be enough- no more putting up with being loved on someone else's terms and based upon their definition of what love should be and when it should be given.
Everything about your matters, your story, your feelings, your passions and your dreams. If you need help ask for it, reaching out does not mean you are weak it does not make you a failure nor does it define who you are as a person or how far you have come on your journey. Allow yourself the opportunity to be helped, loved and cared for, you owe that much to yourself for all you have been through and conquered, for all you have endured and overcome. <3
Knowing when to walk away is truly an art. It is a graceful dance between acceptance, surrendering, forgiveness and self-love. Walking away from something or someone who brings us pain or harm is not only necessary but also liberating, it frees us from the chains the bind us and tie us down to misery and sadness. The act of walking away can also hurt like hell and make us feel that we will never be whole again, but we will- we will deal, we will feel and eventually we will heal.
fly sweet girl, fly...
Safe. Loved. Free.
Taking responsibility and accepting that we have hurt someone is the first step towards making things right.
Stepping out of your comfort zone and into the unknown is scary and uncomfortable but it's also life changing and dare I say--healing. Honor your boundaries but also know when to push beyond the limitations you have set for yourself. The magic happens once when we take a chance and believe in ourselves and trust the process.
Forget about the critics and cynics. The fact that you are out there giving it your best not knowing if you will succeed or fail but doing it anyway is all the credit and recognition you will ever need. Celebrate yourself. Recognize your efforts, value your strength and courage, rise strong.